First online dating site history profile
By this point you have talked back and forth twice and can measure how well you are getting along.
You will be able to judge the situation better as you communicate: sometimes you’ll get a date on your first email, other times you may realize a few weeks of communication would be best.
I never went for phone conversations as a stepping stone from internet communication to meeting.
I tried phone conversations early on but had a few bad experiences with “excessive calling” and one case where a girl took it as a personal offense every time I had to get off the phone.
Your date might remind you of your time constraint (“But I thought you needed to be home at 8…”). People who are dating online actively will appreciate your planning for a bad date and like the fact that you are saying to them “this is a good date”.
If you would rather not let them in on your planning for the worst-date-scenario, just say that you’d prefer to cancel your previous plans and spend your evening with them.
In contrast, many times the dates ended with coffee or lunch.
This approach is a cousin to the having-your-friend-call-you-and-faking-an-emergency act that some people think is so slick.
After all, contacting someone is just a pre-cursor to the first date.
Honestly, I have never felt comfortable talking on the phone for long periods of time (even to close friends) so I prefer to jump straight from the internet communication to meeting.
If you enjoy talking on the phone or prefer to do so before meeting someone, treat this step like you would the first date by asking for the phone number by the third email.
I made this mistake early on and now understand why a few girls, after several emails, would ask direct questions like “Is there anything else you would like me to answer? There are times where you will feel like you are communicating with a “great catch” only to realize what a mistake that was 60 seconds into the first date.
It is important to meet early on so less time is spent talking to the wrong person and more time is spent trying to find the right one. The first date should be planned not long after communication has begun.